Sexting @40

We all do it.  We SEXT. At least if you aren't in a LTR, you are doing it.

Sexting: Is texting sexual enuedos or acts to a person you may or may not actually have sex with.  This either satisfies a need to feel desired or be desired.  An aspect of foreplay.

In your forties these things take on a totally new twist.  Not that I could have sexted in my 20s, considering all we had were beepers.  Typing a few numbers and flipping the beeper upside down was as close to a text message one could get back in the day.

For myself, these days, post divorce, at my sexual peek, I realized I have zero inhibitions and I don't really care what I write, if it's the right person, anything goes. 

Because who really gives a shit, it is only "a sext." And its funny and free and full of all sorts of fantasies for what may or may not become a true reality.  

And so sometimes, you may find yourself sexting while your kid's smelly socks are lying beside you.  And the stench is so bad you wonder, "How can I still be sexting, while smelling these nasty things."  And we continue on.

I have learned after polling a few friends, that many people have not ventured into this realm of their sexually experimentation.  Many people know what sexting is, but either do not do it, don't know how to do it, or think it's only about sending dirty photos.

I feel a little education is needed on this topic:

*Eggplant emojis are always code for a penis.  For those who have not yet been clued in.  

*GIFs make great additions to sexting. Use them wisely and sparingly.  

*Sexting is not simply talking about the act of sex.  It's more about all the dirty little things you'll do to one another leading up to the act.   

*Self gratification is optional and often more likely to happen if both parties are sharing naked photos.  

Sexting @40 is much more exciting with confidence and with no regrets. Never, not one. It's been entertaining and often surprisingly, satisfying at times. 

But, why is this even a thing?  

Is it safer to sext in the comforts of our own home, where we can personally satisfy our own needs?

And let's not forget about Snapchat, and VideoSnap and Phone Sex and FaceTime.  It's all twisted into the concept of virtual sex.  Sex is not only about the physical, in person, act anymore.

An aspect of sexual fantasies are coming alive on our smart phones.  The power of sexting and all that comes with it is at our fingertips and it is truly the safest sexual forum. 

If you have never Sexted before, try it once.  Your signficant other or new hot play thing may be caught off guard.  You may surprise yourself at what and how your words come across.  

Sexting is a thing.  

Embrace your inner sexting inhibitions.