Toxic People

Toxic People. 

I hate that word. TOXIC

What does it really mean?

The term Toxic is thrown around often.  We use it to make an excuse for another person's behavior when they make us feel uncomfortable.  

Why?

People gravitate towards all types of personalities.  Often, it takes us some time to know a person's true colors until we spend time with them.

What we love about them initial ultimately will turn us away.  Yet, they are like a magnet in our life.  They continue to show up or stay even when we know they are unhealthy for our well being.

There is something we need to learn about ourselves before we can cut ties.  Until this lesson is uncovered, that person will infuriate our souls to the deepest core. 

We need to understand exactly why they are there to hurt or harm us, but we do need to acknowledge those feelings and what is it about their words or actions that touch us.  

The same reason we embrace the good people in our lives, is the same reason we need to embrace the toxic ones.  Pull them in and discover the negative emotions associated with the person.  Dissect what has happened in your past, and learn your present.  

1. Be present in the most negative moments.

2. Allow yourself to see the mirror they are showing you.

3. Find your center and reflect.

4. Ask for the lesson.

5. Forgive and let go.

If you do not determine the reason your paths crossed, you will continued to cross paths with the same type of person.  The toxicity stems from within.  The magnet is an unresolved piece of our journey.

Take responsibility for this person's role in your life before you cut them out or if you decide to keep them at arms length.

Negatively is not something to shy away from. Negativity is something we need to understand, we need to relate to it and shift our perspective.  

I can guarantee once we acknowledge the purpose of our current state of the relationship, we can only then be freed of the hurt.  The pain within will soon dissipate.

Churn the Toxicity over and over until it transforms into something different. Something better.  Then decide how to move forward.